6 traits · 3 friends · 60 seconds
you think
you know
yourself.
your friends know better.
Rate yourself on six traits. Three friends rate you anonymously — no accounts, no sign-ups. Then the overlay drops and you see the gap between the you that you know and the you that they know.
live example — the perception gap
CANDOR
Smooth Operator ↔ Straight Shooter
16 checks across 6 categories — or write your own
the vibe check
the classic. who are you, really?
💖the bestie check
what kind of friend are you really?
🎧the hangout check
who you become on a night out
🧨the chaos check
how feral are you, actually?
✈️the travel check
who you become three thousand miles from home
🚨the crisis check
who you are when it all goes wrong
😏the rizz check
your dating energy, rated by the group chat
🍸the first-date check
the version of you that shows up
💞the partner check
how you actually love, not how you think you do
🔮the zodiac check
are you actually a textbook [your sign]?
🧸the sibling check
your role in the family, decided by the family
🍽️the holiday check
who you turn into at the family table
🌳the grown-up check
the adult they see now, not the kid they remember
💼the coworker check
your 9-to-5 persona, exposed
📊the meeting check
who you become in a conference room
🧭the leader check
how you steer when it's your call
🛠️build your own
check anything. seriously.
01
check yourself
Pick a question pack — or write your own this-or-thats. Every answer is a flex.
02
send the link
Your people answer a few quick sliders about you. Anonymous, 30 seconds, no app.
03
see the gap
At 3 reviews the overlay unlocks: your shape vs. theirs, blind spots included.
from the lab
the science of perception & blind spots
The Modern Johari Window Test: Discover Your Blind Spots with Friends
The Johari Window is a 70-year-old psychology framework that asks one deliciously uncomfortable question: what do your friends secretly notice about you that you're totally oblivious to? The 1955 paper was brilliant, but checking boxes off a list of 55 vintage adjectives was clunky. Here's how continuous sliders, anonymous peer quorums, and animated radar overlays turn it into a 60-second social mirror.
What Vibe Do I Give Off? How to Find Out What People Really Think of You
We use the word 'vibe' as lazy internet slang, but your brain is actually a high-speed radar dish running an evolutionary process called thin-slicing. Here is why you can't evaluate your own vibe in the bathroom mirror—and how to get an honest, non-awkward verdict from the people who actually know you.
Finding Your Personality Blind Spots: Why 95% of Us Are Not as Self-Aware as We Think
Here's a wild finding: 95% of people swear they're deeply self-aware, but only about 10% actually pass objective tests. The catch? You can't journal your way into self-awareness. Introspection only reveals what you wish were true about yourself—you need external eyes to see what's actually happening in the room.